Are you in a relationship? In a talking stage? Simply just crushing? Valentine’s Day can be an extremely confusing holiday for those unsure of their relationship status. Here are my opinions on what you should do on Valentine’s Day, whether it be spending it with your significant other, your situationship, or your hallway crush.
The tradition in the past is that you would typically ask someone to be your Valentine on the actual day of February 14th. However, this can get confusing if you’re talking to someone, and you haven’t quite gotten to that official status: Are we spending the holiday together? What are we? In more recent years, social media has made it so that asking someone to be your Valentine a few days — or even weeks — in advance is the way to go about it.
In my personal opinion, even if you’re in a committed relationship, you should still make the effort to ask your significant other to be your Valentine. Maybe you don’t necessarily need to do a whole extravagant “ask” weeks in advance, but a “Will you be my Valentine?” with a gift should do it. It’s the effort that counts! On the other hand, if you’re in a situationship, I think it’d be nice to ask the person to be your Valentine in advance. This creates a sense of clarity for both of you. It gets rid of the awkward confusion and tension the week leading up to the holiday. It also gives you time to plan out your date or purchase a gift. Lastly, if you want to be bold and ask your crush to be your Valentine, make sure to do your research and preparation beforehand. Find out if they’re in a relationship or if they already have a Valentine. If you’re going to take this route, make sure that at the very least, you’re on speaking terms with this person. It’d be kind of weird to ask someone to be your Valentine having never spoken to them before.
Once you have successfully secured your Valentine, the next step is to plan out what you’re going to do on Valentine’s Day. If you’re in a committed relationship, a nice dinner is what I think you should take your Valentine on if you want to impress them. There are a bunch of lovely restaurants in the area that have a great date night vibe – check out Justin and Rita’s article to learn more! If you’re in a situationship, maybe a fancy dinner wouldn’t be the best way to go. However, unless you have the intention of asking this person to be your girlfriend/boyfriend, then maybe you should take them out. If the time’s right, you could perhaps even be super romantic and even ask them to be your significant other! Nevertheless, if your situationship is still new, simply spending the day together and hanging out is a cute way to spend the day. Planning a cute date like ice skating or mini golfing would also be a fun way to spend the holiday. It shows that you still care about the other person, and that you care about the “relationship,” even though the status of said relationship is a bit up in the air. If you’ve successfully secured your crush to be your Valentine, congratulations! Since you’re still getting to know one another, I think that simply grabbing food, going on a drive, and listening to music would be a good way to break the ice. Who knows, maybe it could lead to something more?
Take this advice with a grain of salt. I am by no means a relationship expert (no one is calling me the “Love Doctor” anytime soon) but these are simply my thoughts and opinions. Wishing you the best of luck as you tackle this holiday – hopefully it’s filled with lots of chocolate and love!
